Starting Strong: How to Join a Team with Confidence
What to Say, and How You Say It; Earns You a Seat at the Table

First impressions matter! Whether you’re a parent joining a school committee, a new teacher entering a building, or a community member stepping into a collaborative project, your first meeting sets the tone. How you communicate early on influences how others perceive your role, your intention, and your approach to teamwork.
Joining a new group means entering an established culture with its own unique dynamics, spoken and unspoken norms, and established relationships. Your communication style can either build trust or create barriers. Being intentional with your tone, words, and body language helps you integrate more quickly, and it also boosts your confidence.
Effective communication begins with the art of listening. It’s more than hearing words; it’s about understanding intent, observing body language, and responding with care. Active listening demonstrates respect and helps you gather important context, especially during emotionally charged conversations, like those that take place at IEP meetings. When people feel heard and valued, collaboration flourishes and meetings are more productive.
Ask questions, don’t make assumptions! Open-ended questions invite dialogue and show genuine curiosity. Instead of asking, “Why are we doing it this way?” try “Can you walk me through how this process evolved? This signals that you respect the team’s experiences and want to understand their thinking. When you do that, you become a welcome part of the conversation and a trusted team member.
Respect for team culture is essential. Some teams are informal and collaborative; others are structured and follow strict protocols. Always listen carefully before jumping in. If possible, research the team before your first meeting. Whether parent, teacher, or community member, learn who’s involved, the team’s objectives, and past initiatives. Being prepared allows you to contribute with confidence and credibility.
Walking into a room for the first time can be intimidating. It’s natural to feel pressure to prove yourself. But remember, trust is built slowly. Reflecting on what others say by paraphrasing or asking thoughtful follow up questions, shows you’re listening and invested in the conversation. When you encourage others to share what they know, they’re more likely to welcome your input. You become someone they want to collaborate with.
In the end, your first goal is not to impress, but to connect.
Whether you’re a teacher, parent, or community member, you always approach new teams with humility, curiosity, and respect. Listen with intent. Ask questions with a purpose. Learn the culture before you try to change it. By communicating thoughtfully and contributing deliberately, you will build trust, and your voice will have greater impact because of it.





